An expectant mother has received support from the internet after sharing that she spoke to her mother-in-law in a ‘patronizing’ tone for touching her pregnant belly.
Shared on the popular Reddit Am I the Asshole forum, u/No-Comfort-670 said in her post — which has garnered more than 14,000 votes since it was shared on Friday — that she is uncomfortable to be touched. Ever since she became pregnant, however, her mother-in-law and sister-in-law constantly touch her belly without asking.
It all came to a head when u/No-Comfort-670’s mother-in-law touched her belly at a baby shower and she immediately pulled it out while responding in a condescending tone.
Touching a pregnant woman’s belly
u/No-Comfort-670 isn’t alone in not wanting to be touched without asking—Verywell Family has published an article offering advice on what to do if a pregnant person is touched without their consent.
“While there will always be people who will want to stroke your growing belly, don’t feel like your belly has somehow become part of the public domain,” said the point of sale. “Even though it may be prominent, it is still part of your body and belongs to you.”
Those who wish to deter people from touching their belly may choose to block them, be direct and tell people not to touch them or pat the other person’s belly in return.
“Am I the a**hole?”
In her post, u/No-Comfort-670 said she and her husband are expecting their first baby together. Although there were ups and downs with her husband’s parents pushing the envelope, she said the overall experience was positive.
u/No-Comfort-670 said she didn’t like being touched, which became a problem after her pregnancy.
She said she and her husband tried to talk to them and asked them to touch her stomach, but they rarely kept to the limit.
During the baby shower, u/No-Comfort-670 was eating cake when her stepmother, while talking with another relative, reached out and touched u/No-Comfort-670’s belly.
“So I took his hand, pulled it away and said, ‘No, no, you know I told you not to touch without asking first. You know how to ask, don’t you? It’s easy! with the most condescending voice I’ve had,” said u/No-Comfort-670.
Later, her mother-in-law approached her and said she didn’t appreciate being talked to like a child.
“I just smiled and said that [her] touching me after she was told a million times not to was childish behavior and I just called her about it,” u/No-Comfort-670 said.
She said that when her stepfather asked her to apologize, she refused.
Other Reddit users flocked to the comments section to voice their support for how u/No-Comfort-670 handled the issue.
“Everyone thinks being pregnant makes you public property,” wrote one Redditor. “Hang on, enforce your boundaries and reprimand her every time.”
Another Reddit user wrote that it is unacceptable for someone to touch another person’s body without permission.
“You politely drew the line and they stomped the whole line,” they said. “We had to put them back in their place.”
“If someone can’t respect your wishes even after being repeated so many times, they deserve to be called out,” one Redditor commented.
Newsweek contacted u/No-Comfort-670 for further comment.
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