Single influencer, 37, tired of waiting for the ‘perfect partner’ enjoys solo honeymoon
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An influencer who was tired of being single decided to embark on a “solo honeymoon” and vowed to stop relying on men to make her happy.
Brittany Allyn has revealed that in 2022 she traveled to London and froze her eggs before booking her dream vacation to France and Italy, reports Jam Press.
Since then, Allyn has been living her best single life.
“I think everyone has days where they’re like, I want this, deep romance — but mostly I don’t feel any pressure to get married,” Allyn said in a Youtube video. “I heard this quote once that if you marry at 50, the love of your life, you could be with that person for 30 years.”
“My longest relationship was about five years and it felt like an eternity, so 30 years of being with the love of your life makes me so happy, I’m in no rush,” the influencer continued.
According to Allyn, her outlook on life comes from her parents.
“I had very supportive, down-to-earth parents, and they were like, ‘Britt, we want you to experience everything in life to have this much fun,'” Allyn said.
Allyn said her parents told her “Marriage is amazing. Kids are amazing, but it’s not that perfect solution and it’s really hard, not everyone gets a perfect marriage or, you know, perfect kids.
According to the influencer, her parents encouraged her to live her life to the fullest.
Although she loves her life, the Seattle native isn’t above worrying about societal pressures.
“My 20-year-old self was completely different, I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom,” Allyn confessed. “I was in love with a guy I’d known since high school and I was like ‘we’re gonna live in the same town and get married and have kids at 27 or 30,’ and I’d have some passion projects on the side .”
“But I was just going to be a mom and never leave Seattle but at 25 we broke up and I went in a completely different direction,” Allyn continued. “I think she’d be impressed and also think it’s pretty cool that what she thought was true in life is actually the opposite – whatever you think is going to happen probably isn’t really going to happen.”
Since the split, Allyn has realized that a honeymoon shouldn’t be just for married couples.
“There are so many places I wanted to go, but I was waiting for that perfect partner, the perfect relationship,” Allyn said. “Southern France, was one of them, and Venice, Italy, going on a gondola ride, going on a safari in Africa, now that I’m in my mid to late thirties, I’m like, wait, why am I waiting? ”
Since her travels, Allyn has posted her journey on social media and served as a source of empowerment for other single women.
“People really loved this content, I think I probably got a thousand messages from women planning their own moons,” Allyn said. “It’s really cool to know that it inspired women to travel solo, and I’d say you won’t regret it.”
“It’s such an empowering feeling to know that I was brave, I did that when I was doing something for myself, you know, I’m an interesting person who wants to explore the world,” Allyn continued. “When you’re on it, it’s less scary – I’ve made a few videos to help women navigate all the nuances of solo travel, like dining alone.”
Even though Allyn has a positive outlook, her video has been criticized by several internet trolls.
“It’s always random men who are trolls and I’m like, if it’s not clear, like this page isn’t for you, then please leave,” Allyn said. “I’m not asking you to be part of this conversation, but it’s still misogynistic and insecure men making comments.”
For the most part, Allyn says her page is a positive place.
According to Allyn, she put aside her dreams of being a mom for now and chose to travel the world.
“Egg freezing in America is incredibly expensive and only really big tech companies or big corporations usually cover it,” Allyn explained. “Otherwise it can cost around $18,000 so I couldn’t afford it.”
Allyn revealed that the first time she tried freezing her eggs the medicine didn’t work and she eventually had to stop taking it, but that didn’t deter her.
“My body just wasn’t picking up the medicine properly, my follicles weren’t growing, so after eight days I had to stop,” the influencer said. “Hopefully this spring and probably next fall as well I will try to freeze again and so once I do that I think I will really have a lot of peace of mind.”
Allyn said that while her “me-moon” has worked for her, she is aware that there is no “one size fits all” path.
“Now that I’m 37, I’ve seen a lot of women go down different paths and one isn’t better than the other, you’re not instantly happy if you’re married, you’re not not instantly happy if you’re a mother,” Allyn said. “In some ways, I think being more independent and single is easier.
“I can just scroll to bed in the morning, I can look up flights next week if I want to go somewhere, the world is my oyster right now,” Allyn said. “I definitely have real pressures but one life is not better than another, I think you just have to realize that your life is unique and you have to accept that.”