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Pregnant Wife Who Turned Off Her Husband’s Work Alarm: ‘Never Wakes Up’


A post about an ‘exhausted’ pregnant mother who is ‘tired’ of being disrupted by her husband’s alarm schedule for work has gone viral on Reddit.

In a post shared on Reddit’s Am I The A****** (AITA) sub-forum under the username Ambitious_Thing_440, the mother said she and her husband were working from home. Her husband starts work at 8:30 a.m. and sets his alarm clock for 7 a.m. every day but “never wakes up”. So his wife ends up hitting the snooze button herself every 15 minutes because the alarm wakes her up.

One morning the user told her that she must have “accidentally pressed” the snooze button, instead of snooze, on the alarm, which saw her husband being late for work. He was still asleep around 10 a.m.

The mum said: “I’m currently 6 months pregnant so this morning I was exhausted and didn’t want our little one to wake up earlier than necessary and wanted some extra sleep myself so I turned it [the alarm] stopped.”

An image of a woman turning off an alarm clock in bed. A post about an “exhausted” pregnant woman who “accidentally” pressed the Off button instead of Snooze, on her husband’s alarm clock has gone viral on Reddit.
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When the user woke up her husband and asked, “Are you still sleeping? It’s almost 10 a.m.,” he replied, “No problem! before running to his laptop. “He told me to stop turning off his alarm and not touch it unless I hit snooze,” the user said.

She said, “Yeah, I technically lied today [to] tell him about his alarm, but I’m literally fed up… and I made sure to wake him up on time. Or so I thought. IATA?”

A July 2022 study in Ethiopia, published in the Journal Science and Practice of Sleepfound that sleep disturbances “can lead to emotional and psychological consequences for pregnant women, and can lead to serious complications for mothers and their babies.”

Factors such as depression, anxiety, poor sleep hygiene, first pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy and late gestational age (the period of embryo development) have been shown to be associated with poor quality of sleep, according to the study.

A July 2020 study of more than 7,000 pregnant women in Poland, published in the peer-reviewed International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, found that 77% of women suffer from sleep disorders. “The occurrence of these problems increased during pregnancy, with the highest incidence in the third trimester.”

The study indicated that physical, psychological and hormonal changes make pregnant women more likely to suffer from sleep disturbances.

The most common sleep disorders during pregnancy include insomnia, restless leg syndrome (an irresistible urge to move your legs), obstructive sleep apnea (when you stop breathing during sleep), and reflux. nocturnal gastroesophageal (when stomach acid leaks into the esophagus).

According to a Johns Hopkins Medicine article reviewed by Dr. Grace Pien, assistant professor of medicine at the Johns Hopkins Sleep Disorders Center, research shows that pregnant women who don’t get enough sleep may face a higher risk of developing complications during the pregnancy. , such as the following:

  • Pre-eclampsia (a blood pressure condition)
  • Gestational Diabetes
  • Longer deliveries and higher cesarean section rates, especially for women who sleep less than six hours in 24 hours.

The mother in the latest Reddit post said her husband doesn’t want to get up until “8:15 a.m. at the earliest” and doesn’t wake up to his alarm.

The user said: “But the rest of us hear it [his alarm], so my toddler and I usually wake up about 45 minutes earlier than necessary. I asked him to stop fixing it so early and he said he needed the whole nap hour to wake up. So he’s been on the couch lately, but I always wake up from there and have to repeat it every 15 minutes.

“He falls asleep almost every night around 2 a.m., so he won’t wake up 9 out of 10 times with an alarm at 7 a.m. Instead, I always wake up and have the task anyway. to snooze the alarm every 15 minutes,” the user said. Explain.

Manage conflicting sleep patterns

Michelle Shivers, a licensed family and marriage therapist, professional counselor and dating/relationship expert, said Newsweek that couples generally have the same sleep pattern, “which is essential for a healthy relationship” and that those who “share the same sleep schedule have a higher satisfaction rate”.

However, the couple “should have an open discussion” if they have to follow different sleeping schedules for any reason.

Chills said in the case of Reddit’s belated viral post: “The wife is right. She is pregnant and needs more sleep. She works and has a child. Her sleep is essential for sleep satisfaction, and her husband should help him.”

Understand your sleep schedules

Chills said couples should explain why they have different sleep schedules. “Where did her husband spend the most time? Are they able to sleep and wake up at the same time? The therapist said the original poster should explain to his partner that “she needs rest and he needs to sleep when she goes to sleep.”

Try another gadget to wake up “gently”

Shivers said the husband could try using a “vibrating wearable” device as a wake-up alarm. “It can help her stay alert and won’t affect the sleep of the woman and the toddler. You can also choose a device that can wake up with lights,” she said.

Ask a child to wake him up

The therapist said that if it is difficult to wake the husband in the morning, the user should “ask her child [to do it] or simply place the child on it. The child continually tries to wake him up. In that case, he’ll either stop using the alarm that wakes the child, or he’ll take care of your little one,” Shivers said.

Several Reddit users shared their support for the original poster in the latest viral post.

In a post that received 11,100 upvotes, user annrkea said, “Stop waking him up. Stop waking him up this minute. That’s not your job. There are 50 different devices he could use to wake up. Or he could just push the fuck out and do it himself. I repeat: it’s not your job and it’s not your responsibility. He has to run his own business without disturbing his family. He must be an adult and a father. NTA [not the a******] but you will be if you activate it more.”

In a response to the above comment, Portie_lover noted, “This makes sense in theory, but in practice it leaves OP [original poster] and the child is always woken by the alarm before he intends to wake up,” in a comment that received 4,300 upvotes.

User slayingadah said: “Yeah my husband was also a chronic snooze pusher but he’s also a decent man so when I told him as soon as the alarm goes off I’m up whatever it happens and i can’t go back to sleep it stopped [f******] I do. OP’s husband is a tool and should grow [the f***] get up and go to bed earlier, like an adult [with] a wife and child,” in a comment that got 3,600 upvotes.

User wordsmythy said: “He’s not a frat boy [member of a fraternity in college]. It’s a [f******] husband and father. Sad that he doesn’t seem to care that his exhausted pregnant wife has to deal with a toddler awake 45 minutes early thanks to him acting like a 14-year-old. Note that they both work, but no mention of dad taking care of the toddler in the morning. Too busy playing until 2 am I bet. NTA [not the a******].”

Newsweek contacted the original poster for comment.

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