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Parent defended for not wanting to buy groceries for pregnant neighbor

The internet has defended a parent for not wanting to pay for his pregnant neighbor’s groceries.

Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a parent with the anonymous username u/aitafeedingneighbors shared his story to gather feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 8,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The Redditor began their post by explaining how a pregnant young woman and her daughter recently moved into the apartment across from them. The day they moved in, the original poster (OP) wrote that the woman was on many sites, including Nextdoor, Facebook Marketplace and other groups, asking for baby supplies, furniture, toys and clothes for her. her daughter.

OP explained that the woman’s daughter went to the same summer camp as their children. However, when school started, the woman approached the groups asking if someone could babysit her daughter for an hour until she came home, but no payment was mentioned. . Their husband “pushed” them to say yes because the woman’s daughter was friends with their children and they could help each other with their homework.

Above, a woman stressed out about shopping. The internet has defended a parent for not wanting to buy groceries for his pregnant neighbor anymore.
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OP wrote: “That hour turned into two hours and she started having dinner with us almost every night. Then the daughter told my husband that she didn’t think her mother ate when she had dinner with us That day we had a lasagna big enough to feed us all twice and he sent the leftovers home with it.Then he started sending all of our leftovers home with her, along with some clothes that our daughters have grown up, toys they no longer want, and he has started buying extra groceries for them,” the parent continued.

The Redditor confirmed that their husband doesn’t buy them anything expensive. He spent $40 to $50 a week on milk, eggs, cereal, fruit, vegetables, and the occasional meat for the wife. OP mentioned that he also helped around the house.

“I finally told him to stop sending the leftovers home because I take them for lunch and sometimes the kids take them too, so not having the leftovers costs us extra money. the $40-50 a week should be spent on our family, not the woman across the hall He said we could afford it and they needed it way more than we did and I said that we were already doing more than enough for them by acting like free daycare for her and giving her daughter dinner 5 days a week. He called me selfish, jealous and cruel,” they wrote. they concluded.

Newsweek contacted u/aitafeedingneighbors for comment.

Newsweek published several articles about food, including a father who was praised online after kicking his sister out for cooking gluten-free food in the kitchen, a woman who was criticized for ‘forgetting’ her wallet while eating at expensive restaurants and a couple who were applauded for refusing to give their wedding guests meat options.

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Editors’ reactions

“[Not the a**hole]- and I would tell him this – when he’s the one providing the free daycare, buying (like going to the store and getting) the extra groceries, cooking the extra food, and having to pack the extra lunches because there’s no leftovers – THEN and ONLY THEN can he call someone else selfish. It’s fine for him to feel good about himself for what YOU provide. But no he gets no credit for it morally or otherwise,” u/chuckinhoutex wrote, receiving the highest comment of over 10,000 upvotes.

“[Not the a**hole]. I agree. You are already watching her child for free and feeding her, which is super generous. The extra errands aren’t extravagant, but your child also needs a college fund that the money could be invested in,” u/imothro said.

U/apeapina commented: “[Not the a**hole] I’m afraid your husband calling you jealous is telling. He probably knows you should be. Try to have a personal relationship with your neighbor, so your husband is less involved.”

“You don’t have a wife problem across the way, you have a husband problem. He’s bullying you about things you should decide together. I’m not going to jump to the conclusion that something’s going on. ‘inappropriate. But, it seems your husband at least enjoys being a white knight for a single 20-year-old woman who isn’t you. [Not the a**hole]“, explained u/bklynpeter.


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