DEAR ABBY: My husband is tired of paying to keep my eggs frozen. He has seven children. I know utility costs have skyrocketed these days, but I couldn’t disagree with him more.
He meets his friends for breakfast every weekend and they deposit a lot of money there. If he just reallocated his pocket money, we could afford to continue freezing my eggs. I keep telling him, “You’re spending money on the wrong eggs!” “I would like to have a baby within a year. What should I do? — FREEZING IN FARGO
DEAR FREEZING: If your husband doesn’t already know how important it is for you to have your own child, now is the time to let him know. I’m sorry you didn’t mention how long he’s been paying to freeze your eggs, but if you’re hoping to conceive next year, he can afford to keep paying for a few more months. Would he prefer you to remain childless? If this is the case and you have been misled, you may want to consult a family law attorney.
DEAR ABBY: I was invited to the wedding of my friend’s daughter, “Alexa”. Alexa and her fiancé’s registry only asked for money for their honeymoon. About a week before the wedding, I sent a monetary gift through their online wedding registry.
The next day I learned that the wedding had been postponed indefinitely, even though they were still together. I think the right thing to do is give me my money back, but it looks like they have no intention of doing that. Should I request the return of my gift? What is the protocol? — TRICKED IN TENNESSEE
DEAR DECEIVED: Considering that the wedding (and the honeymoon you contributed to) have been called off, you have every right to request the return of your gift. Suggest it to Alexa first, and if the money doesn’t come through, tell your friend. What her daughter did could be considered fraud.
DEAR ABBY: My 17 year old girlfriend is constantly coming up to me looking for a fight lately. I can’t figure it out for my life. We have built a good life. We have a child together, a house and two dogs. She recently talked about perimenopause, which I know nothing about. I love what we have and don’t want to lose it, but I have no idea how to fix it. Please advise me not to lose my family. — FEARING IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR FEARS: Go online and search for “perimenopause”. It’s a time in a woman’s life when our hormone levels change, which can affect sleep, mood, and body temperature, among other things.
It’s something every woman experiences sooner or later, and it’s important that you understand it. Volumes have been written on the subject, which will help you gain empathy and insight. Because it creates challenges in your relationship, don’t procrastinate. Start now.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.