The internet has defended a father for kicking out his sister after bringing gluten-containing foods into his gluten-free kitchen.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man with the anonymous username u/poorunfortunatgluten shared his story for feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 7,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began his post by explaining that his daughter has severe celiac disease. Any cross contamination can set it back and it took them years to diagnose and treat it properly. The OP wrote that she was underweight and suffered from severe anxiety regarding food and would not eat unless she felt safe.
The OP has two kitchens in his house: a full kitchen upstairs and a kitchenette downstairs. The kitchen has a strict rule for gluten-free, dairy and seafood-free foods, while the kitchenette in the basement contains foods containing these ingredients.
For personal reasons, his sister and children moved in with the PO. They live in the basement bedrooms and have been told of the strict rule regarding the upstairs kitchen. Less than a week after moving in, the OP found a box of pasta in the kitchen and repeated the rule to him.
Weeks later, the PO’s daughter came to him in a panic because her sister was cooking fried chicken in the upstairs kitchen. The sister apologized but complained that the basement kitchenette was “too small”. To be on the safe side, they threw away all used pots and utensils and deep cleaned the kitchen.
Now that the kitchen was no longer 100% safe, her daughter regressed in therapy. They are working to help him feel safe again, but until then the OP is giving him takeout from a local gluten-free restaurant.
But things quickly degenerated.
“I come home and my daughter has the worst panic attack I’ve ever seen. My mom and sister were in the kitchen cooking a whole Sunday dinner. Spaghetti, mozzarella sticks, lemon bread I lost it. I ended up yelling at them that they were ruining my life and threatening my daughter’s life for the last time, and I got it,” he said. he wrote.
“I threw all the food in the garden and told my sister that if she really cared a bit about her own niece’s life, she could get the hell out of my house. Now my mother is in mad at me for kicking out my sister and her kids when they’re vulnerable due to “food allergy” but I don’t care she can even leave the kids here if she absolutely needs to but I have done with her. We have ONE rule. ONE,” he continued.
His wife agrees with him but thinks he should give her one last chance as she will have nowhere to go as her mother cannot take her in.
Newsweek contacted u/poorunfortunatgluten for comment.
Newsweek published several articles regarding conflicts with food, including a mother who was dragged for calling a woman a “child molester” for cooking frozen food for her child and how the internet slammed a sister for having dumped $1,000 worth of food from his brother’s house.
What is celiac disease?
According to the Mayo Clinic definition, celiac disease is an immune reaction to eating anything that contains gluten. Gluten is a protein found in wheat, barley and rye. Eating gluten with celiac disease over time can damage the lining of the small intestine and prevent the body from absorbing certain nutrients. This type of damage can cause diarrhea, fatigue, weight loss, bloating and anemia. It could also lead to other serious complications.
Some foods a person with celiac disease should avoid – unless directed by a doctor – include beer, bread, many types of candy, cakes, pies, cereals, cookies, pasta, oats, many salad dressings and many soups, by Healthline.com.
A doctor will diagnose someone with celiac disease by looking at data, including their family and medical history. They can also diagnose someone by performing blood tests and biopsies of the skin and small intestine, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases.
“[Not the a**hole]. She can pick a direction and not care. How dare she stay in your house and risk your child’s health,” exclaimed u/CrystalQueen3000, receiving over 15,000 upvotes for her comment.
“[Not the a**hole]. Your daughter has a severe allergy and you have explained it to your sister who does not seem to really understand the consequences of her actions. First time, okay, she forgot. The second time okay. . . I guess the kitchenette being too small is a poor excuse. THE THIRD TIME, SHE COOKS A COMPLETE GLUTEN DINNER WITH MILK PRODUCTS; you are within your rights to lose it and kick them out. Three strikes and your out. It’s your house, your rules. If they can’t follow them, they can find another place to live,” u/DesignerAsh_ wrote.
U/TinyRascalSaurus said: “[Not the a**hole]. If someone with gluten intolerance eats something that contains it, it can permanently damage their intestines. Even minute amounts can cause harm. Your sister was putting your daughter at medical risk. She knew the rules. She knew your daughter’s safety was at stake. Either way, she chose to break the rules on multiple occasions.”
“[Not the a**hole], You clearly explained the situation and she chose to ignore it, ultimately quite badly. She needs to understand that your family is absolutely number 1, and for no small reason. she’s in a really bad position now, but she’s a big girl now, and the consequences flow from your actions. There has to be a moment when you just say “ok, that’s it – we’re done here,” u/bobbypet commented.