Dad heartbroken for hiding stepdaughter’s passport before family trip: ‘Down’


Internet commentators have been appalled after a parent revealed where she discovered her teenage daughter’s missing passport.

In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Throwaway317515 (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) said she funded an international vacation for the whole family, including her husband and friends. three stepchildren, but was furious to learn that her biological daughter was indeed unwelcome.

Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for canceling the whole trip after finding out my husband hid my daughter’s passport?” the post received nearly 21,000 upvotes in the last 10 hours.

“My husband and I have been together for 3 years,” OP began. “He has 3 children from his previous relationship and I have one. She is the oldest (17).”

Going on to explain that her husband constantly complains about his daughter’s relationship with his children, the original poster said the 17-year-old is often treated like a babysitter and family tensions have risen as a result.

The original poster also stated that she thought a family vacation out of the country would give everyone a chance to spend time together, without so many custodial obligations, but she was deeply disappointed.

“My husband…suggested that we let [my daughter] stay home and have the house all to herself since it’s ‘what she always wanted,'” OP wrote. “He kept [complaining] until I broke down and told him to stop.

“I booked (paid) for the whole family. However, my daughter told me she couldn’t find her passport… my husband said maybe it was a sign from God,” said continued OP. “I ignored his comment but later, while I was cleaning his desk, I found the passport, hidden in the 3rd drawer under a ton of papers.

“I was bowled over by this [and] I confronted him with this…I yelled at him and then canceled the whole trip,” OP added. He wants to take some time off to fast and get some guidance from God on how he should dealing with disrespect.”

Family vacations are the perfect opportunity to get closer and bond over seemingly magical experiences.

Unfortunately, opportunities do not always translate into success.

Family feuds during the holidays are common, mostly due to concentrated time together with no opportunity to escape, according to parenting outlet Motherly.

“Most families don’t spend every moment together,” maternal author Deborah Porter wrote this year. “Being on vacation can feel a little overwhelming if you’re used to or need time to yourself.”

But even if the tightest units struggle to contain their emotions during the holidays, blended families face additional challenges, including issues with non-custodial parents and the pressure to use time away from home. to deepen newly created family ties.

This pressure, however, cannot manifest if the holidays never come.

Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum were outraged after a relative revealed where she discovered her daughter’s hidden passport.
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Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors praised the original poster for unplugging their out-of-country trip and slammed her husband for using such sleazy tactics to keep his stepdaughter out. to be included on the pretext of protecting one’s own children. .

“[Not the a**hole]”, Redditor u/AbbyBirb wrote in the main comment of the post, which received nearly 40,000 upvotes. “He can’t use your daughter as free babysitting for his kids…so he’s pushing her away intentionally from his family.

“Your husband wants to control you…your husband wants to control your daughter,” they continued. “When he can’t do it easily, he uses manipulation and lies to achieve it…when it doesn’t work, he throws a tantrum.”

Redditor u/Sel-Reddit, whose comment received nearly 11,000 upvotes, echoed that sentiment.

“He’s a liar, abusive, sneaky, manipulative [a**hole] who is trying to push your daughter away for him and his kids,” they wrote. “You must open your eyes to his ACTIONS [versus] his words.

“Book a trip just for you [and] your daughter,” they added.

In a separate comment, which received nearly 10,000 upvotes, Redditor u/Uh_Cromer denounced the original poster husband’s claims of disrespect and put a label on his manipulative behavior.

“It’s gaslighting,” they claimed. “He wants you to think that ‘disrespecting him’ (defending your daughter from a thief) is worse than hiding his passport from him and lying about it.

“I want to reiterate that you are NOT THE [a**hole] at least,” they added. “Your husband is a liar, a thief, a hypocrite and a manipulator.

Newsweek has contacted u/Throwaway317515 for comment.



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