A woman is asked to leave her relationship after paying for every meal


The internet has urged a woman to leave her relationship after sharing that her boyfriend pays her for every meal when they go out.

Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman with the anonymous username u/AITAthrow5353 shared her story to receive feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 11,800 upvotes and 4,400 comments.

The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that she had been dating boyfriend “Ricky” for five months. She wrote that he was already divorced but doesn’t use the word and refers to himself as “divorced” as he was the one who called off the marriage.

“He always goes on long rants about his exes and says things like ‘I hope you don’t have that awful habit my ex has’ or ‘I hope you like XYZ because my ex doesn’t. didn’t “and the list goes on”, OP said.

Above, a man and woman have a disagreement as they sit at a table set with breakfast dishes. Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman has been asked to leave her relationship after her boyfriend paid her for every meal when they go out.
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She wrote that she had gotten a new second job and that Ricky would still make her pay for meals when they went out to eat. When she objected, he would tell her that he was going through a “difficult patch”.

Recently, Ricky invited his parents out to dinner with them. They got to the restaurant first and he asked if she had brought enough money.

“I said why and he told me he told his parents I would pay for their meals,” OP wrote. “I said why I would and he kept saying his parents were going through a tough time like him. I said ‘I’m sorry, it can’t be a coincidence!’ he asked me what i wanted to say and i told him i wouldn’t pay.he insisted i refused and said no.he then leaned back and said “Well , you’re there, so you don’t really have a choice anyway” while laughing like it’s funny.”

“I got up in silence, took my phone and purse and walked out right away. He was shocked that he started yelling at me to stop and wait, but I I didn’t. I came home and he called me enraged saying that I had done a horrible thing by stepping on him and his parents, when I could have paid. I told him that their unhappy financial situation was not my problem and that I didn’t have to pay for their food. If they couldn’t afford their meals, then they shouldn’t go out,” she continued.

He told her that she made money a priority “like her ex” and told her how disrespectful she was for leaving him at the restaurant. He refuses to talk to her until she apologizes.

Newsweek contacted u/AITAthrow5353 for comment.

How to Spot Red Flags in a Relationship

Are you in a similar situation to OP? Just started a relationship and want to be aware of some red flags to look for? Here are some common red flags to watch out for, according to betterup.com:

  • A partner who has an overly controlling behavior.
  • Lack of trust in the relationship.
  • Your partner negatively affects your self-esteem.
  • There are signs of physical, emotional and mental abuse.
  • In your relationship, there are signs of anger management issues.
  • Whenever you have a conflict, there is never a result.
  • If a partner begins to show jealousy frequently.
  • If a partner negatively impacts your relationship with family and friends.

Newsweek has published several articles about relationship conflict, including how a man was ‘humiliated’ by his girlfriend’s choice of dress to meet her parents, the internet defended a ‘toxic’ woman for saying no to her husband and a woman praised for dumping a man after nine years because his kids won’t accept him.

Editors’ reactions

“OMG – GIRL RUN!!!! This is NOT a man you want or need in your life! Go go go and don’t look back – like never before!! [Not the a**hole] hands down,” u/33ayin exclaimed, receiving the top comment of over 11,000 upvotes.

“Divorced vs. Divorced – Red Flag. Repeatedly stating about his ex – Red flag. Expecting you to pay for everything – Red flag. “Seeing how much help I can offer” – Red flag. Expecting you to pay for his parents, and not warning you in advance – Red Flag. Comparing yourself to an ex because you don’t want to pay for his family – Red Flag. This guy is full of red flags. it’s time to run. [Not the a**hole]wrote u/GamesCatsComics.

U/WhiteJadedButterfly said: [Not the a**hole], you’ve only been together 5 months and he’s been doing all of this. It’s time to cut your losses! Next!”

“[Not the a**hole]. My boyfriend is clearly using you. Glad you held on. Also he probably didn’t initiate his own divorce…just a hunch lol,” u/anonthrow_away88 commented.



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