10 essential tips from Tina Turner

Legendary singer Tina Turner – known for her iconic hits such as ‘The Best’ and ‘What’s Love Got to Do With It’ – died Wednesday at the age of 83.

Throughout his decades-long career, Turner has always been a moving musical force to be reckoned with, winning eight Grammy Awards, a Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award, a spot in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and a Kennedy Center Honor.

On and off stage, Turner’s story has made her a symbol of reinvention and perseverance for many. Her life became the basis for films like 1993’s “What’s Love Got to Do With It,” documentaries, and a hit Broadway musical in 2019. Although Turner rose to fame with her musical partner and late husband, Ike Turner, she forged a second career as a solo artist after leaving the abusive and controlling marriage, as she details in her memoir. His 1984 comeback solo album, “Private Dancer”, was a worldwide hit.

She also wrote three best-selling memoirs, including “Happiness Becomes You: A Guide to Changing Your Life for Good,” which was the guide to life she learned from Buddhist principles. Turner was diagnosed with cancer in 2016 and underwent a kidney transplant in 2017.

Below is a summary of some of the wisdom she has shared in her writings and in interviews over the years that we could all learn from:

“Remember that happiness is an inside job. Just think about how your ego knows exactly where your weak spots are and how to trick you into dwelling on them.

“On the other hand, your inner wisdom knows how to connect you to the joy that resides within you. The bottom line is that becoming happy is up to you. No one else can make you happy. And true happiness cannot never build oneself at the expense of others. ―2021 interview with “Today”

“Whatever your situation, it is a valuable exercise to ask yourself these questions. What would your version of ideal happiness look like? What is your heart’s desire?

“When I was in my twenties and early thirties, I didn’t know what I wanted and didn’t really think about where I was going. I just went there. It may seem obvious, but if you don’t know what you want, how can you get it? If you don’t know what your idea of ​​fulfillment is, then it will be hard to find. … With a mission statement, I could see how the things I was starting to dream about would support my mission in life. I dug deeper and deeper inside, letting go of what was holding me back, and I began to see myself more clearly. ―Turner’s Book “Happiness belongs to you”

“At every moment, we always have a choice, even if we feel like we don’t. Sometimes that choice may simply be to think more positively. ―Turner’s Book “Happiness belongs to you”

“I don’t necessarily want to be a ‘strong’ person… I’ve had a terrible life. I just kept going. You just keep going, and you hope something will come… . It came. ―2019 interview with The New York Times

“My biggest beauty secret is to be happy with myself. I don’t use creams or special treatments – I use a bit of everything. It’s a mistake to think you are what you are. you put on. I believe a lot of how you look has to do with how you feel about yourself and your life. ―2016 interview with Woman & Home magazine

“If you’re unsure of the value of mentorship, think of how many elite athletes or professional sports teams train without a coach. Zero. How many of your favorite movies are made without a producer or director? Zero. Of the best schools in the world, how many operate without teachers? Zero. It’s safe to say that every great leader, in any field, first had a great mentor.

“Finding a mentor who inspires and guides your growth is a life-changing experience. Mentors help us transcend the limits, or perceived limits, of our abilities. A mentor can be anyone who teaches us and helps us grow in a way that we couldn’t have done on our own.―Turner’s Book “Happiness belongs to you”

“When I was approached with the idea of ​​a musical theater production about my life, I wasn’t interested. There were several reasons for me to say no. I had just retired and the last thing I wanted was more work… But I decided to once again venture out of my comfort zone and go for it.

“I’m glad I did. Development Tina: the music of Tina TurnerI found myself rewarding and cathartic. …

“Falling in love with my husband, Erwin, was another exercise in getting out of my comfort zone, in being open to the unexpected gifts life has to offer. The day I first met Erwin, at an airport in Germany, I should have been too tired from my flight, too preoccupied with thoughts of my concert tour, and too rushed to get to my hotel to pay a lot of attention to the young musical executive who came from my record company to welcome me. But I noticed it and immediately felt an emotional connection. …

“As you can see in my life, human revolution is really just the conscious elevation of your vision beyond your everyday world and your striving to achieve something larger and more meaningful. is what happens when you grow beyond your comfort zone. Ask yourself this simple question: will I take a step forward or will I stay where I am now?” ―“Happiness belongs to you”

“Stay true to yourself, work hard and be dependable. Taking the road less traveled is often more difficult but worth it. And no matter what, never give up. ―2021 Interview with Harvard Business Review

“I endured hardships all the way… My legacy is that I stayed the course from start to finish because I believed in something inside of me that told me it could be ok. ‘improve… So my legacy is a person who strove to want it better and got it.―2013 interview with Oprah Winfrey

“I truly believe that age is just a number, and I’ve never let age get in my way. Not at forty-two, when people said I was too old to be. a rock star. And not now, octogenarian, when the book I’ve dreamed of writing for decades is finally in your hands.

“I’m past eighty, but I haven’t ‘arrived’, as I still challenge myself to grow, step out of my comfort zone, improve my life and be of service to others. ” ―“Happiness belongs to you”